THE ENTRANCE INTO SOCIETY

The desire of pleasing is, of course, the basis of social connexion. Persons who enter society with the intention of producing an effect, and of being distinguished, however clever they may be, are never agreeable. They are always tiresome, and often ridiculous. Persons, who enter life with such pretensions, have no opportunity for improving themselves and profiting by experience. They are not in a proper state to observe: indeed, they look only for the effect which they produce, and with that they are not often gratified. They thrust themselves into all conversations, indulge in continual anecdotes, which are varied only by dull disquisitions, listen to others with impatience and heedlessness, and are angry that they seem to be attending to themselves. Such men go through scenes of pleasure, enjoying nothing. They are equally disagreeable to themselves and others. Young men should, therefore, content themselves with being natural. Let them present themselves with a modest assurance: let them observe, hear, and examine, and before long they will rival their models.

The quality which a young man should most affect in intercourse with gentlemen, is a decent modesty: but he must avoid all bashfulness or timidity. His flights must not go too far; but, so far as they go, let them be marked by perfect assurance.

Among persons who are much your seniors behave with the utmost respectful deference. As they find themselves sliding out of importance they may be easily conciliated by a little respect.

By far the most important thing to be attended to, is ease of manner. Grace may be added afterwards, or be omitted altogether: it is of much less moment than is commonly believed. Perfect propriety and entire ease are sufficient qualifications for standing in society, and abundant prerequisites for distinction.

There is the most delicate shade of difference between civility and intrusiveness, familiarity and common-place, pleasantry and sharpness, the natural and the rude, gaiety and carelessness; hence the inconveniences of society, and the errors of its members. To define well in conduct these distinctions, is the great art of a man of the world. It is easy to know what to do; the difficulty is to know what to avoid.

Long usage a sort of moral magnetism, a tact acquired by frequent and long associating with others alone give those qualities which keep one always from error, and entitle him to the name of a thorough gentleman.

A young man upon first entering into society should select those persons who are most celebrated for the propriety and elegance of their manners. He should frequent their company and imitate their conduct. There is a disposition inherent, in all, which has been noticed by Horace and by Dr. Johnson, to imitate faults, because they are more readily observed and more easily followed. There are, also, many foibles of manner and many refinements of affectation, which sit agreeably upon one man, which if adopted by another would become unpleasant. There are even some excellences of deportment which would not suit another whose character is different. For successful imitation in anything, good sense is indispensable. It is requisite correctly to appreciate the natural differences between your model and yourself, and to introduce such modifications in the copy as may be consistent with it.

Let not any man imagine, that he shall easily acquire these qualities which will constitute him a gentleman. It is necessary not only to exert the highest degree of art, but to attain also that higher accomplishment of concealing art. The serene and elevated dignity which mark that character, are the result of untiring and arduous effort.

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Aquarium Fish

You have the set up and now all you need is the fish to go in it, but what to choose? Do you want to start of small? Or do you want to dive right into the deep end, pardon the pun. The best thing to do it is to talk it over with your local fish shop. But they will advise you exactly the same as what I am going to advise you. If you see this as becoming a really good hobby then don’t bother will small fish as this is just a waste of time and money, but if this is just a fad or is for your kid’s or whatever, then small fish is the way to go.

Small aquarium fish can be anything from tetras to angel fish, they are usually brightly coloured and tend to eat fish flakes rather than fish “meat”. The smaller fish tend to be for decorative purposes as they are very shiny and create a lot of bright silvers under the right aquarium lights. They are simple fish with no personality and they are no fun at all! These kinds of fish are for simple decorative aquarium set ups and suit people who want a low maintenance tank.

Larger fish however, such as cichlids and African fish are a lot harder to keep. They are the harder fish in general though, so your fish mortality rate is pretty low, unlike smaller weaker fish. The problem or should I say fascination with cichlids is that they are cannibals. If there is a smaller fish in the tank then say good bye to it as it won't be there much longer! They eat fish meat and don’t try to feed them any less, they will not be happy. Different types of cichlids are available. They do not all look the same, there are Oscars (my personal favorite) which you can have tiger, red or albino. There are black belts, there are jaguar cichlids and the list does go on. The types of fish require a lot of filter and gravel cleaning as they have high amounts of waste. A breeding pair of cichlids is worth a lot of money! Cichlids in general are more expensive as they tend to be larger (we have a tank of 5-6 one and a half foot Oscars). Just remember that these fish like the tank. Set up the tank how you like but it may not stay that way for long. I could go on forever about cichlids but Ill leave it there for now.

So depending on what the reasons for your aquarium is depends on the type of fish for the aquarium that you should get. Smaller more decorative tanks need smaller more decorative aquarium fish. But the bigger the tank the bigger the fish! Put in some big boys and let them do the talking!

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Thinking About Choosing The Right Color For Your Dining Room?

All of us want to be different when it comes to the decor and furnishing of our dining rooms. We all should add our own dimension to make the place as wonderful as ever. This way, you are not only making your place inspiring and worth having a look, you are also adding to the invitation quotient. People go to any extremes to make their pad as different and vibrant as possible, sometimes spending huge amounts in the bargain. Thankfully, you do not need to do that, even if you want to have that exclusive look. Just spend a few days planning and you can have wonderful results. Let us have look at tiny little tit bits needing your attention.

The first and foremost aspect you need to consider is the color scheme of your dining place. It is particularly relevant for people having a big dining area with dining tables and accompanying dining room chairs placed alongside for that wholesome dining experience.

It is worthwhile to design a color scheme, which is in line with the overall color chosen by you in the adjoining rooms. Soothing colors such as off white or light green add value to the dining experience and are most preferred. If you are having a formal dining room with separate settings and nice furnishings, you have a plenty of choices. You can make your place as dashing and shiny as possible or decide to give it a subdued touch. The decision is all yours - there is nothing right or wrong. A bright shade for your room may denote energy, vibrancy, peppiness and the much talked about ‘oomph’ factor. A relatively subdued shade may reflect another dimension of your personality - elegance, refinement, grace and sophistication.

In case of an informal dining room, your choices get somewhat limited, as your place is an extension of your living area or hall. Thus whatever color you have chosen for your living room, goes for dining room too. Does it mean that your dining place should remain only a footnote to the living room? Certainly not. You can bring so many variations and add so much value to the whole thing, that it would look totally different. Let us see how.
First of all, you can have a nicely built and carved wooden partition that you can place to demarcate the dining area. It takes little space and looks refreshingly different and stylish. You can even fold it and place it in the corner. Just have a look at one and you will love it.

You can even place a fine hutch as a part of your dining room furniture. It will store your serving dishes and also save space in the most cramped kitchen. Any way, you can make your dining room hutch big enough to work as a partition and then have sufficient space for movement.

You can make a difference to your dining experience in numerous ways. As they say, nothing matters more than a happy and peaceful meal in fine surroundings. Just spare those precious moments and the result will more than justify the time spent.

According to the author it is important to maintain your dining room table in immaculate condition. Wooden dining room tables are not as difficult to maintain as thought to be. Choose from the many dining sets available.

By:Sarika Kabra

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Modern Home Decor: Basic Rules to Follow

If you are tired of the way your home looks like, if it has no particular style and appears outdated, it is time to give your interiors a new modern look. Updating your home with some modern home decor may seem to be a tough task for you, but the efforts will be completely worth it.

If you are not sure where to start with your modern home decor, there are a few basic rules you need to know.

Modern Home Decor Rule #1: Minimalism

Modern homes are all about using minimal decoration. Although this look is often associated with artists, if you could have a look at a fashionable home decor magazine right now, you would notice that many rooms are decorated with only several pieces of furniture. It is in this way that minimalist home decor resembles minimalist paintings.

This minimalist look has been incorporated into modern home decor as a stress-lessening technique. Nowadays, so many people are stressed that coming home that is overwhelmed with different things can make things even worse. Thus, create more space and less stress by incorporating the minimalist look into your modern home decor.

Modern Home Decor Rule #2: Technology

All modern homes come equipped with technology. Technology in home decor means, most often, the incorporation of an entertainment system. It is important to create an entertainment system area in the family room of your home, as it will be the central place for any social gatherings.

Televisions nowadays are coming equipped with built in VCRs and DVD players, so you have the option of purchasing one of those. Or, you can purchase a plasma, or flat-screen television, and connect a DVD player of your choice to it. These kinds of televisions, which do not take up much space have become quite popular in modern home decor.

Modern Home Decor Rule #3: Windows

You might notice that more and more homes are being built with lots of windows. Some of these windows are so large that they actually take up an entire wall. The idea behind lots of windows is to make the home look more open and spacious. If your home lacks windows, use lighter shades of curtains for them to achieve the same effect.

Make Your Own Choice

Try looking up magazines and the Internet for modern home decor ideas; ultimately, the choice of your home decor is only yours. Just keep in mind, that modern home decor should allow for more space and less stress.

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By:Johnson M
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A Unique Shower Curtain

Author: Bernadette Greggory

If you want to add a touch of variety to your bathroom, consider purchasing a unique shower curtain. A unique shower curtain guarantees to bring vibrancy to a room that has traditionally been considered boring. With the advent of online shopping, you will definitely find the unique shower curtain that is right for you.

In the past, a truly unique shower curtain has been nearly impossible to find. Shower curtains have always functioned as nothing more than a tool of necessity. They have been thought of as little more than something that prevents water from getting on the bathroom floor.

From curtains that were nothing more than solid colors to those covered with hideous floral designs, very few of shower curtains managed to draw the eye or capture the imagination. It was very rare that any of these could be considered a unique shower curtain. "Cookie-cutter" and "overly simplistic" are more fitting descriptions.

As people have expanded their decorating horizons within the home, the unique shower curtain has become another means by which you can add a personal touch to your home. You now have a number of options when it comes to buying a unique shower curtain.

From fun curtains that intrigue your children to more intricate ones designed with adults in mind, you have your pick. The good news is that with a unique shower curtain, your bathroom no longer needs to be the least decorated or the most boring room in the house.

If you have children, a unique shower curtain can be an educational tool. Some of the more popular designs are maps. Standing in the shower or sitting in the bath, children have a good chunk of time to look over a unique shower curtain. They are very perceptive and will swallow up any little bits of information you give them - even if it is drawn on a shower curtain!

In addition to maps, some of the more interesting curtains for children are the ones that describe the skeletal outline of dinosaurs and other cool animals. There are many advantages to placing a unique shower curtain in your bathroom, but nothing can beat the knowledge that your children are continually learning.

Adults can also find a unique shower curtain that will keep their attention. For example, some of the more popular curtains are comprised of the works of famous artists. Others include bright and eye-catching colors. The best part is that a unique shower curtain can be tailored to meet your specific interests. Whatever your personality and your tastes, you will find a unique shower curtain that fits your home.

Now that several online companies have joined the shower curtain industry, you should take some time to find the unique shower curtain that fits your room the best. Shower curtains come in a number of colors, designs, and prices, so start your search for the unique shower curtain that will bring new life to your bathroom.

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